"It is better to dwell
in a corner of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof, exposed to all kinds of
weather] than in a house shared with a NAGGING, quarrelsome, and faultfinding
woman" (Proverbs 21:9 AMP)
All right, crossword puzzle fans, here we go! What is a
three letter word for an annoying woman? Wait, wait, wait, wait! Don't put
somebody's name in there like Sue, Amy, Ana, Kim, Pam etc... Don't you dare do
that! LOL!
Let's see...the three letter word is uh...NAG! N-A-G. And if you know a nag, you know there can be many cross words that come from her NAGGING mouth! I can't think of any 3-letter name, less desirable for a woman to be called than to be called a nag! I mean who wants to be known as a Nag? For that matter, who wants to be around one? But we'll get around to that one later!
Let's see...the three letter word is uh...NAG! N-A-G. And if you know a nag, you know there can be many cross words that come from her NAGGING mouth! I can't think of any 3-letter name, less desirable for a woman to be called than to be called a nag! I mean who wants to be known as a Nag? For that matter, who wants to be around one? But we'll get around to that one later!
HOWEVER, BEAR IN MIND: NAGS DON'T JUST HAPPEN! Oh
no! NAGS ARE MADE, NOT BORN!
We're going to read Proverbs 21:9 and then skim over to verse 19 since it's on the same subject. Here's what it says, "Better to live on a corner of the roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife." Who says God doesn't have a sense of humor? Picture a guy living up on the roof! Can you imagine him saying in essence: "That's it, I've had it, I'm moving to the corner of the roof!" LOL!
Nagging is so bad that even the Bible says in another
translation: "If you are living with a NAG, it
would be better for you to go up on a roof and LIVE THERE." Not take a moment to yourself, not take a time out, but "...LIVE THERE..."! The Amplified Bible
Really Hurts Your Feelings, It Says: "It
is better to dwell in a CORNER of the housetop [on the flat oriental roof,
exposed to all kinds of weather] than in a house shared with a NAGGING,
quarrelsome, and faultfinding woman" (Proverbs 21:9)
Listen: Not only is it better to live
on the roof then in a house with a nagging woman, but
the Bible says it's better to live "...in
a CORNER of the housetop..." you don't
even get the whole roof! One of the definitions for the word “Corner” is “a difficult or awkward position” or “to force into a
place or situation from which it is hard to escape”. Its Latin Origin “Cornu” literally means “TIP”. Seriously, do you realize how fed up a person would have
to be to "LIVE" on the “TIP” of a rooftops "CORNER"?! And as uncomfortable, difficult
and awkward as the position may be to live in, do you realize a person’s
nagging can still make it a place or situation that’s hard to escape from!
Meaning, they would rather "LIVE" on the “TIP” of a rooftops "CORNER" (as difficult as it may be) than to
live in the WHOLE HOUSE with a NAG! I don’t think you want that testimony that
you pushed someone that far now do you?! If not,
STOP NAGGING!
Then to top it off, the
text not only says it's better to "...LIVE in a CORNER of the housetop..." but it goes even further to say you should LIVE on the “TIP” of a
rooftops CORNER even while "...EXPOSED
TO ALL KINDS OF WEATHER..." Can you imagine being so much of a NAG that a man would rather put
on his PJ's and not sit, but LIVE IN A TIP OF A CORNER OF A HOUSETOP...IN THE
SNOW, SLEET, RAIN, HAIL, TORNADO, HURRICANE, FLOOD, TSUNAMI, OR STORM...than in a WHOLE HOUSE with nagging you?! Is Nagging Really That Bad? According to
GOD, YES! READ YOUR BIBLE!
AND AS BAD AS THAT SOUNDS, THAT'S STILL NOT BAD ENOUGH!
Listen to what Solomon says now
in verse 19, "Better to live in a DESERT than with a quarrelsome and ill
tempered wife." The Good News
Translation says it like this: "Better
to live out in the DESERT than with a Nagging, Complaining wife"
OUCH! In essence, he's saying the
roof isn't even good enough, nor far enough, why? Because you can still hear her on the roof! I'm going to
the DESERT; at least I can't hear her there!
So not only
does a man PREFER AND IS WELL-ADVICED, BY THE BIBLE NO LESS, THAT’S IT’S BETTER
TO LIVE ON THE TIP, IN A CORNER OF A ROOFTOP IN ANY KIND OF WEATHER, THAN WITH
A NAG; BUT IT GOES SO FAR AS TO SAY, BOY GO LIVE IN THE DESERT!
In the Desert?
It's Dry, Lonely, Thirsty there and Yet the BIBLE ADVISES, GO LIVE IN THE
DESERT THAN WITH A NAGGING WOMAN!
Now I've heard of aggravating or nagging somebody to the
point they leave the house and go for a drive or a walk, but when you nag to
the extent somebody would rather live on the tip, in the corner of a rooftop,
in all kinds of weather, or better yet, move to the desert, just so they can't
hear you any longer...YOU
MIGHT WANT TO CHANGE YOUR NAGGING BEHAVIORAL PATTERNS!
Now, I have a word today even for potential nags, just in case you might turn out to be one some day, and a word even for those who live with a good candidate for Naghood.
Now, I have a word today even for potential nags, just in case you might turn out to be one some day, and a word even for those who live with a good candidate for Naghood.
If you're tempted to be one, let me remind you of this:
When you push on somebody...just do it physically (seriously, walk up and physically - and gently might I add - push your
spouse). Put your hand on them and push on them. Why? Because this
is what you'll see: THEY'RE GOING TO GO THE OPPOSITE
WAY! That's a little physical experiment you can try. Now, the more you
push, the farther and faster the person's going to go IN
THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION FROM YOU! And the very thing you're trying to
make happen you will delay and maybe you'll make it never happen at all, and all because you're nagging is pushing them away from you! You’ll Do All That Nagging,
And Get Absolutely Nothing In Return But a Spouse Moving Away From You!
I like what Ruth Graham, Billy Graham's wife, said. She said, "It is my job to love Billy. It's God's job to change him."
It's wonderful when a woman can provide a climate of safety and security, and
confidence and unconditional love in which a man might actually take the risk
of changing in. But
To All The Candidates For Naghood, Nagging Will Not Make That Happen! Remember:
When You Push Someone, They Go In the Direction AWAY FROM YOU! YOUR NAGGING IS
PUSHING THEM AWAY! WHEN YOU REALIZE SOMETHING IS NOT WORKING, TO KEEP DOING IT,
IS IDIOTIC!
But let's talk about the other side of this coin; THE PERSON WHO LIVES
AROUND THE NAG.
Well, the Bible talks about nags here doesn't it; a quarrelsome, contentious wife? But hang on guys. Oh, no, you're not going to go free on this one totally. Remember, nags are MADE, NOT BORN! When someone, and especially a woman (wife), from what the Bible says here, feels she isn't being heard by someone she loves, SHE WILL TALK LOUDER, AND LONGER, AND MORE OFTEN TO ENSURE SHE'S FINALLY HEARD! She's trying to find a way to get into the life of the man who promised his life to her, AND HIS LIFE INCLUDES HIS LISTENING EAR! So, a man may ask, "How'd I get a nag?" Well, look in the mirror! Because if a woman feels UNHEARD SHE'S GOING TO CONTINUE TO TALK TO THE EXTENT OF NAG!
Well, the Bible talks about nags here doesn't it; a quarrelsome, contentious wife? But hang on guys. Oh, no, you're not going to go free on this one totally. Remember, nags are MADE, NOT BORN! When someone, and especially a woman (wife), from what the Bible says here, feels she isn't being heard by someone she loves, SHE WILL TALK LOUDER, AND LONGER, AND MORE OFTEN TO ENSURE SHE'S FINALLY HEARD! She's trying to find a way to get into the life of the man who promised his life to her, AND HIS LIFE INCLUDES HIS LISTENING EAR! So, a man may ask, "How'd I get a nag?" Well, look in the mirror! Because if a woman feels UNHEARD SHE'S GOING TO CONTINUE TO TALK TO THE EXTENT OF NAG!
The word "Nag" means "to harass (someone) constantly to do
something to which they are averse." Its Origin dialect means
"to gnaw".
To "gnaw"
is to "bite
at or nibble persistently" So little by little, day by day, she
is going to continue to "gnaw" at your ear until you finally get
them to working! Listen: It takes less time to simply hear her out then to have
her "gnaw"
at your ear over the same topic over and over again! It's like the 2 or 3 year
old who keeps going "mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy..."
eventually she simply Screams “What!?!?” Because the "gnawing"
is annoying!
Therefore, try listening the first time, answering her the
first time, after all how much more "gnawing" are you going to be able to
endure before you're Living On the Tip of the Corner of a Rooftop in the Cold, or
In the Desert Baking?! In a Nutshell: Stop Creating Nags, and You'll Stop Having to
Cry Over One! Maybe you have a wife who just keeps pushing, keeps nagging, keeps gnawing. Well, think about your part in helping her
become like that. Maybe you've been the nag
maker!
However, you can help her. How?
Start to hear her out; don't make her talk louder and longer. Offer your
attention to her. She's been assuming she won't be heard. So she often enters
the conversation nagging! Why don't you show her that you will hear her out,
and not just her first sentence either, but the whole paragraph? Believe it or
not, sometimes she doesn't want you to fix anything; she just wants you to hear
her heart. And then, if you're going to talk about solutions, do something
about them. And love her enough to let her know that she is heard by you.
Truth is Men, TEST AND
STUDIES HAVE PROVEN, Women Will Always Talk More, Longer and Louder Than Men!
So Brothers, Be Smart and Spare Your Ear Drums! Hear Her Out The First
Time...In Full! If Not, Remember: Your Ear Will Be Gnawed On Little By Little,
Day By Day, and the Process Will Be Repetitive Until You Get a Clue! Or until
you’re forced into the difficult, uncomfortable and awkward position of living
on the tip of the corner of a rooftop in all kinds of weather, or in the dry,
desolate desert!
You and
Solomon will agree. In fact, just about everybody agrees. There's nothing worse
than a nag. So, let's decide right now NOT TO BE A NAG, AND CERTAINLY NOT TO
CREATE ONE!
"But she turned on the tears all the seven days of the feast. On the seventh day, WORN OUT BY HER NAGGING, he told her. Then she went and told it to her people" (Judges 14:17 MSG). Do You Realize Nagging Can Literally Wear Someone Out! That Will Make You Think Twice The Next Time He Says “I’m Tired” or “I’m Beat” or “I’m Worn Out”…It May Not Be The Job But the Work of Your Nagging Voice!
"She kept at it day after day, NAGGING and TORMENTING him. Finally, he was fed up - he couldn't take another minute of it...." (Judges 16:16-17 MSG) Nagging Is the Equivalent of Torment! And “Torment” is defined as “a severe physical or mental suffering; to annoy or tease unkindly”. It’s Latin Origin “Tormentum” literally means “Instrument of Torture”, from “Torquere” which means “To Twist”! Your Nagging Is Torture! It Is Causing Physical and Mental Suffering! Your Nagging Mouth Is An Actual Instrument of Torture! Your Nagging Is Twisting Someone Like a Pretzel! STOP IT!!!
"Delilah started NAGGING and pestering him day after day, UNTIL HE COULDN’T STAND IT ANY LONGER" (Judges 16:16 CEV) Everyone has their breaking point! And after all of Delilah’s nagging, Samson gave in and it cost him his LIFE! Your Nagging Is Detrimental to Someone’s Health! So Close Your Mouth and Back Off! Maybe Their High-Blood-Pressure Will Finally Go Down!
"...a NAGGING spouse is a leaky faucet" (Proverbs 19:13 MSG). "A NAGGING spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can't turn it off, and you can't get away from it" (Proverbs 27:15-16 MSG). Can You Imagine This Describing You As a Wife?! Like a Dripping Faucet That Won’t Turn Off and One You Can’t Get Away From!?! If Your Marriage Is Going To Make It You Are Going to Have to Stop Nagging! No One Wants To Be Around a Dripping Faucet Any More Than They Want To Be Around a Nagging Wife! After All, According To The Bible, They Are One In The Same!
"Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a NAGGING spouse" (Proverbs 25:24 MSG) Ok, I don’t think it gets any worse than this! Can you imagine someone PREFERRING to live in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with you and all because of your mouth?! And by the way, the word “Tumbledown” means “falling or fallen into ruin; dilapidated”. And “dilapidated” means “a state of disrepair.” And “disrepair” means “a poor condition due to neglect”. And as bad as that may sound, they would still rather live in a tumbledown shack that is in poor condition, falling into ruin, and completely beyond repair, than to live in a mansion with nagging you! If that doesn’t make you change, nothing will!
"It's easier to catch the wind or hold olive oil in your hand than to stop a NAGGING WIFE" (Proverbs 27:16 CEV). Ok, enough said! Selah!
"But she turned on the tears all the seven days of the feast. On the seventh day, WORN OUT BY HER NAGGING, he told her. Then she went and told it to her people" (Judges 14:17 MSG). Do You Realize Nagging Can Literally Wear Someone Out! That Will Make You Think Twice The Next Time He Says “I’m Tired” or “I’m Beat” or “I’m Worn Out”…It May Not Be The Job But the Work of Your Nagging Voice!
"She kept at it day after day, NAGGING and TORMENTING him. Finally, he was fed up - he couldn't take another minute of it...." (Judges 16:16-17 MSG) Nagging Is the Equivalent of Torment! And “Torment” is defined as “a severe physical or mental suffering; to annoy or tease unkindly”. It’s Latin Origin “Tormentum” literally means “Instrument of Torture”, from “Torquere” which means “To Twist”! Your Nagging Is Torture! It Is Causing Physical and Mental Suffering! Your Nagging Mouth Is An Actual Instrument of Torture! Your Nagging Is Twisting Someone Like a Pretzel! STOP IT!!!
"Delilah started NAGGING and pestering him day after day, UNTIL HE COULDN’T STAND IT ANY LONGER" (Judges 16:16 CEV) Everyone has their breaking point! And after all of Delilah’s nagging, Samson gave in and it cost him his LIFE! Your Nagging Is Detrimental to Someone’s Health! So Close Your Mouth and Back Off! Maybe Their High-Blood-Pressure Will Finally Go Down!
"...a NAGGING spouse is a leaky faucet" (Proverbs 19:13 MSG). "A NAGGING spouse is like the drip, drip, drip of a leaky faucet; You can't turn it off, and you can't get away from it" (Proverbs 27:15-16 MSG). Can You Imagine This Describing You As a Wife?! Like a Dripping Faucet That Won’t Turn Off and One You Can’t Get Away From!?! If Your Marriage Is Going To Make It You Are Going to Have to Stop Nagging! No One Wants To Be Around a Dripping Faucet Any More Than They Want To Be Around a Nagging Wife! After All, According To The Bible, They Are One In The Same!
"Better to live alone in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with a NAGGING spouse" (Proverbs 25:24 MSG) Ok, I don’t think it gets any worse than this! Can you imagine someone PREFERRING to live in a tumbledown shack than share a mansion with you and all because of your mouth?! And by the way, the word “Tumbledown” means “falling or fallen into ruin; dilapidated”. And “dilapidated” means “a state of disrepair.” And “disrepair” means “a poor condition due to neglect”. And as bad as that may sound, they would still rather live in a tumbledown shack that is in poor condition, falling into ruin, and completely beyond repair, than to live in a mansion with nagging you! If that doesn’t make you change, nothing will!
"It's easier to catch the wind or hold olive oil in your hand than to stop a NAGGING WIFE" (Proverbs 27:16 CEV). Ok, enough said! Selah!
Much Love, Dr.Shermaine #InformativeRead #PleaseShare #HealthyBodySoulAndSpirit
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